Two years ago, after coming off of three months of firsts; writing my first book “Silhouette of Her: Naked & Unashamed A Poetic Journey of Faith,” which became a best seller in less than 24-hours, being on my first radio show, beginning my first book tour and more, I can still recall the excitement. I had been riding the wave of excitement then suddenly a wave of quiet commenced. A natural extrovert, I love to go and go some more, do and do some more, even when my mind or body says, “BE STILL,” thus making the quiet that I was now experiencing unnatural for me.
Before all the momentum began, I remembered feeling led in a different direction in business matters and I was on course. Then suddenly, I found myself dropped off in a place of spiritual desolation. I was mentally and physically tired, I felt frustrated most days, I began making careless mistakes, I experienced confusion in areas that I usually felt confident, my finances became distressed all of a sudden, and I began to feel an increasing sense of being overwhelmed with any and everything. I had been there before so I knew exactly what it was and I began relentlessly seeking for answers. I knew that giving up or in was not an option for me.
I was so busy trying to manage life, people, relationships, and business on my own. My mentor John Maxwell says that there is no such thing as time management, there is only priority management. We all have the same amount of time and regardless of what we are doing, time is doing its own thing. So we just have to manage our priorities. I realized that I had simply taken on too much. I told myself that God was in control but the truth was, I was in my own way. So much so that I couldn’t be a help to the people I was called to serve, my family, nor myself. I thought I was looking for a way out, but soon realized that I was really seeking understanding, which can only come from going within. I asked myself then God, “What is the lesson?” I heard clearly, “Be still and allow me to help you.” Sometimes, we don’t realize the messages in our subconscious that cause us to avoid asking for help. We believe, we are not worthy of it, or that if we ask someone we will be disappointed, so we learn that we must do everything on our own which is not a healthy way of thinking or being.
It was not until I acknowledged the darkness, the unrest, the discomfort, for what it was, that I was able to begin to shine a light on it; illuminating and embracing the lesson. It’s in our perception of our experiences that we either remain stuck in darkness or we allow ourselves to move forward into the light. It’s a conscious decision to shift in mindset. See, it’s our thoughts, that control our feelings, feelings that control actions, and actions that control behaviors or so it should work in that order. I had to become intentional in my choosing. It was in dedicating time each morning to pray and center myself, that I found clarity, direction, strength, and peace in the midst of the darkness. As soon as I embraced being still in darkness the book was released. I learned that as life shifted my mind had to shift in that quiet and still space that is only there to enlighten me to the power within and illuminate new opportunities for me. Today, I am the CEO of two businesses and more at peace than when I worked one J.O.B! I love waking up every morning to new mercies just for me.
Sister friend, don’t abort the process…its designed to make you stronger. Seek not to run from the darkness, instead, run to it! Be still in it; thus, illuminating understanding which brings about peace that passes all understanding. In the midst of the darkness, know that your greatest blessings are on the horizon which requires you to walk into the light of God’s love for you.
Richale is a John Maxwell global certified speaker, trainer and coach and both a licensed mental health and addictions therapist in the state of NC. For more information on how to book Richale go to https://inpoweryou.com. For therapy in the state of North Carolina only visit https://caterrrrflies.com. Join The Power Within Podcast with Richale https://feed.podbean.com/inpoweryou/feed.xml.